Friday, October 26, 2007
how to find your true love
it's sem break and usually to make myself occupied, i read a book while lying on bed or nibbling some food. i used to read fiction or gothic romances or adventures and just recently i decided to venture on inspirational ones.
anyway, i have just finished reading bo sanchez's "how to find your true love." and surprisingly, i was only advised to read a 3-page appendix from it. the rest, according to the book, is of no importance or does not apply to me and my lifestyle.
nevertheless, those three pages have created an impact to me. and somehow, it made my beliefs and principles firm and strong, and my purpose in life more defined.
these are just very simple words but i really hope they'll inspire as much as they did to me.
For Younger Singles Reading This Book...
Teens, don't have exclusive relationships until you're ready for marriage.
I know. This is difficult. So I'm not laying it down as a doctrine--but as a wonderful suggestion to those who want to escape all the complexities of having a long steady relationship.
Let me tell you my story.
When I reached my 17th birthday, I had my first girlfriend. I was happy and so was she. The following week, we weren't happy anymore. Because I get a phone call from her and she was angry. When I asked her why, she said, "Because you didn't call me yesterday."
"Yesterday? What happened yesterday?"
She remained silent.
And then it hit me. I asked, "Do you mean I should call you everyday?"
"Of course! (Like helloooooo, is the earth round? Is the sun hot?)
Wow, I didn't know boyfriends were supposed to call everyday. My relationship went on for four long years. We broke up when I was 21, and it hurt--but it was also a day of liberation for me and for her. And I didn't have a girlfriend for the next 10 glorious years--and I never felt so free in my entire life. Those 10 years were fantastic years of personal growth, expanding my horizons, and serving God in radical ways. I traveled around the world, learned new skills, pioneered new organizations, started new ministries....
It was awesome. Honestly, I couldn't have done all those things if I had a girlfriend. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend in your teens, you'll be saddled with the following problems.....
Your world becomes very small.
Your time is taken up by one person. Instead of meeting new people, learning new skills, expanding your territories, putting up businesses, serving God... your attention will be on maintaining this one relationship--with the petty fights, little arguments, silly jealousies and two-hour phone conversations everyday.
You miss out on great experiences to mature as a whole person.
I grew a lot when I took on responsibilities, led organizations, traveled to various places and talked to lots of people. If you're single, I strongly suggest that you take every growth opportunity you can take. Take up pottery lessons, volunteer to be a missionary in Africa, learn how to bake, take a course on speed reading.......Grow more as a person so that you can give more to your future spouse and future children.
You open yourself to a lot of sexual temptations.
Obviously, the longer the boy-girl relationship, the more sexual pressure builds up internally to "go all the way." This need to express love physically is a natural progression of the long relationship. It's wiser to delay the intimate relationship so that handling the sexual pressure will be much easier.
There I've said it, teens. There's a lot of time to start dating and courting when you're in your twenties.
But right now, stop baby-sitting this person.
If you're not going to date and have a boyfriend or girlfriend, what should you do? What else: Enjoy the single life!
Climb mountains, write a novel, water ski and skydive, compose songs, travel to China, organize a fundraiser, lead a prayer meeting, minister to an orphanage. For crying out loud, have fun, grow up and expand your world!
Get to know lots and lots and lots of people. That's better than getting bogged down to one particular guy or gal. An din these natural situations (in sports or projects), you actually get to know the "real" person more than in a romantic date.
And perhaps, you'll meet your One True Love among your many friends. :o)
--->Sanchez, Bo. "How To Find Your One True Love."
now it is on your discretion to agree or not.
i'm done here :)
posted by anthonette || 2:29 PM
Saturday, October 20, 2007
expect the unexpected, a cliche.
last friday, we almost died.
we were in glorietta 2, happily feasting our eyes with mouth-watering delicacies we are to devour to totally consume the 580-pesos eat-all-you-can meal at saisaki, dad's and kamayan. we expected we would stay there all afternoon doing nothing but eating and chatting about anything and everything. it was 1.30 pm and moni and i just got back to our table when suddenly the ground shook. we ll thought it was just an earthquake and we even came back to eating our food. then suddenly, everyone was running to the exit a floor below where we stand. there was a stampede. i saw from my friends eyes the fear and panic felt by each and everyone. fearful that entertaining the frantic feeling might somehow worsen the situation, i tried to smile back and ignore what happened. victoriously, i was able to withdraw the tension inside me and my friends even thought i show no sign of being alarmed.
monica and i went back to the buffet table and grabbed desserts. when we got back to the table, lore and nina impatiently remarked that we got to go. the waiter has just asked us to pay for our bill and leave the premises. everyone was curious about what actually happened. the waiter then explained briefly that a bomb exploded and the heart of g2 where luk yuen was located exploded. i can't help feeling tensed. we are just 30 meters away from the explosion. without any more objections, we paid the bill and i even ignored my 120 change and hurriedly left. outside the restaurant, there was a thick smoke and you can barely see anyone or anything at all. everything was in chaos and everyone were already outside, on the grounds, while waiting for news.
immediately, we ran, away from the mall, form the event, from everyone. we ran to the philippine stock exchange building. with a relief that we are most likely safe, we even managed t laugh at our experience. it was definitely unforgettable.
later that day, i watched the news and continued waiting for information today. at this moment 9 died, 119 casualties were estimated and it is still increasing. just realized how short life is. and how lucky i am to be there but not actually lose my life or make myself harmed.
it is true that it takes years, even decades to build life but it takes just a blink of an eye to lose one.
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i was shocked when i saw that i actually posted something for my blog at 10:21 pm. knowing that i was already so absorbed with mmk during that time. it made me think that maybe i have unconsciously typed my blog or what. basta my thoughts have gone weird again.
when i read the post, i knew it was not of my making. but it was meant for me. (and somehow i figured out how it ended there but I'm gonna cut to the chase for everyone's sake)
what i felt after seeing this? i am not sure. i just know that my heart thumped faster and i felt weak and tired again like i did when i posted the blog about "apathy."
maybe it was guilt that actually with all the things that have happened i was not a victim. but i am the vicious antagonist that ruined everyone's lives and even my own.
guess it's time to be honest.
for so many times i admit, i resorted to escaping, forgetting and giving no regard to anything that have happened. i have always thought that maybe my silence would kill all the drama and everything would be done, everything would be gone. for a moment, i was victorious. my studies kept my mind from everything and all my weariness was diverted to efforts for my academic struggles. but they were right i can never escape from it. i am a coward. in the first place i was the one who triggered the feud.
i was hurt by my own making. i was hurt because i hurt them all. if i feel sad and tormented, it is not because someone hurt me but because i knew deep inside every chaos, all came from me. i did it. and i know everything i did was wrong.
to all that i have hurt, i am truly sorry.
i know it is not enough but it is all that i can say. i am really sorry.
to her, for hurting her for what happened. for my fickle mindedness and intrusion.
to him, for hurting him with all the things i have said and for leaving him and treating him like a stranger. i am sorry if i just wanted to live my life alone, without you and for not returning every ounce of affection you have rendered for me. i just want to move forward, by myself.
and to them, for hiding from them through my busy schedules and my books. i know well that i cannot bring everything back to the way it is before, before everything else happened. i was not a good friend and i don't blame you if you despise me. i can accept the consequence of what i did. it will hurt but then i knew i deserve it. i am really sorry and thanks for everything. it's all up to you na. and i am just really sorry to keep you waiting.
i am sorry if 'sorry' is just all i can say. but i just want you to know that i meant it.
posted by anthonette || 10:55 AM
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
delayed reaction to joanna's tag
In the 8 facts about yourself, you share 8 things that your readers don't know about you. Then at the end you tag 8 other bloggers to keep the fun going.
* Each blogger must post these rules first.
* Each blogger starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.
* Bloggers that are tagged need to write on their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.
* At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
* Don't forget to leave them a comment telling them they're tagged, and to read your blog.
1. I never eat onions, garlic and bell pepers.
2. My favorite morning drink is coffee.
3. I despise cellphones. hehe
4. I have a mole at the back of my head. (sa scalp)
5. I love strolling around the village at night.
6. I wanted to be a member of Gabriela or Anakbayan but my sister prohibited me or else I will be blacklisted.
7. I loooovee nail-biting. my sisters and friends hate me for it!
8. I once had a white complexion, when I was still a toddler. and now, it's gone!!!! haha
I tag... Monica, Cesca, Marc, Anriz, Dave, Lorra, Lelis, and Shrimpy
posted by anthonette || 8:10 AM
wasted.
the term is ambiguous for two reasons. one, what? second, why?
i got out of bed thirty minutes before my nstp class is to stat. good thing it was postponed. and i really missed the feelig of waking up when the sun is already up and kickin' :) my mind did a little recap over what has been going on lately.
last sunday i had to wake up 4am and get ready for my finals in pe at diliman. it was still dark, cold and quiet outside but my insides we're like turbines, turning and turning so rapidly relative to the rush of adrenaline in my body. diliman was really enormous and beautiful and plus, i can't hide the fact that the school grounds we're definitely conducive for learning, very much unlike ours. but then, i noticed little about it. my mind was focused on making two rounds around the sunken garden for just 35 minutes. so that i could be exempted for my written test. and guess what? i made it 36.++! a minute and few seconds discrepancy form exemption. i admit i felt really sad and disappointed. i felt so weak for not reaching it. but then, who cares? as long as i know i did my best and if it's not enough then i'll have to take in the consequences. it's my action so i just need to feel responsible for it. so tomorrow, i'll just answer a few questions, hope of passing the test and get on with my life. haha!
yesterday was a different story. i stayed up all night and studied 5 long chapters for my exam in soc (which requires memorization) and 6 o so chapters of trig for MATH17 which demands a whole lot of concentration, patience and determination because a 100% effort is just equivalent to a 3 (thank god) or point lower than 3 (please no!). bottomline, i slept at 4am and woke up at 6. so far, i already passed two exams out of 4 and i am really thankful but in order to pass and be more than thankful is to shoot for another passing score. ( i really really PRAY). my study time during the time was somehow quite satisfactory unlike the previous dep ex's. for one thing, there were less distraction from my phone or the television or everyone in the house. everyone was so sweet and considerate that they slept early for me to go solo in our dining area and study. plus, kuya erik was so kind for waiting for me to finish and for accompanying me while studying so that i won't fall asleep. my cellphone, aside from having zero load for two weeks already beeps only for updates from my blockmates. actually lately i am not fond of cellphones, i even leave it at home and act as if i don't own one, which is for the record, a nice experience for me.
now ask, why wasted?
first, wasted efforts.i was too lax thinking that i could reach the finish line before 35 minutes is up that i came late. i underestimated how time can fly so fast. oh well. i just have to deal with my test tomorrow. (pero ciempre sayang!) another thing, i worked too much for my math dep ex that most of the time while i am taking the test i feel sleepy and my mind seems to be blocked from any information that i must process.i studied too much that i did not get enough sleep to keep me up during the day which is why i can't think well. i don't know. hmm i am really work-driven and i slave-drive myself in studying so i really can't do anything about it. i just love cramming and "studyaholicking."
second, wasted feeling. exams and removals explain it all.
posted by anthonette || 5:57 AM