Friday, October 26, 2007

how to find your true love

it's sem break and usually to make myself occupied, i read a book while lying on bed or nibbling some food. i used to read fiction or gothic romances or adventures and just recently i decided to venture on inspirational ones.

anyway, i have just finished reading bo sanchez's "how to find your true love." and surprisingly, i was only advised to read a 3-page appendix from it. the rest, according to the book, is of no importance or does not apply to me and my lifestyle.

nevertheless, those three pages have created an impact to me. and somehow, it made my beliefs and principles firm and strong, and my purpose in life more defined.

these are just very simple words but i really hope they'll inspire as much as they did to me.

For Younger Singles Reading This Book...

Teens, don't have exclusive relationships until you're ready for marriage.

I know. This is difficult. So I'm not laying it down as a doctrine--but as a wonderful suggestion to those who want to escape all the complexities of having a long steady relationship.

Let me tell you my story.

When I reached my 17th birthday, I had my first girlfriend. I was happy and so was she. The following week, we weren't happy anymore. Because I get a phone call from her and she was angry. When I asked her why, she said, "Because you didn't call me yesterday."

"Yesterday? What happened yesterday?"

She remained silent.

And then it hit me. I asked, "Do you mean I should call you everyday?"

"Of course! (Like helloooooo, is the earth round? Is the sun hot?)

Wow, I didn't know boyfriends were supposed to call everyday. My relationship went on for four long years. We broke up when I was 21, and it hurt--but it was also a day of liberation for me and for her. And I didn't have a girlfriend for the next 10 glorious years--and I never felt so free in my entire life. Those 10 years were fantastic years of personal growth, expanding my horizons, and serving God in radical ways. I traveled around the world, learned new skills, pioneered new organizations, started new ministries....

It was awesome. Honestly, I couldn't have done all those things if I had a girlfriend. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend in your teens, you'll be saddled with the following problems.....

Your world becomes very small.

Your time is taken up by one person. Instead of meeting new people, learning new skills, expanding your territories, putting up businesses, serving God... your attention will be on maintaining this one relationship--with the petty fights, little arguments, silly jealousies and two-hour phone conversations everyday.

You miss out on great experiences to mature as a whole person.

I grew a lot when I took on responsibilities, led organizations, traveled to various places and talked to lots of people. If you're single, I strongly suggest that you take every growth opportunity you can take. Take up pottery lessons, volunteer to be a missionary in Africa, learn how to bake, take a course on speed reading.......Grow more as a person so that you can give more to your future spouse and future children.

You open yourself to a lot of sexual temptations.

Obviously, the longer the boy-girl relationship, the more sexual pressure builds up internally to "go all the way." This need to express love physically is a natural progression of the long relationship. It's wiser to delay the intimate relationship so that handling the sexual pressure will be much easier.

There I've said it, teens. There's a lot of time to start dating and courting when you're in your twenties.

But right now, stop baby-sitting this person.

If you're not going to date and have a boyfriend or girlfriend, what should you do? What else: Enjoy the single life!

Climb mountains, write a novel, water ski and skydive, compose songs, travel to China, organize a fundraiser, lead a prayer meeting, minister to an orphanage. For crying out loud, have fun, grow up and expand your world!

Get to know lots and lots and lots of people. That's better than getting bogged down to one particular guy or gal. An din these natural situations (in sports or projects), you actually get to know the "real" person more than in a romantic date.

And perhaps, you'll meet your One True Love among your many friends. :o)

--->Sanchez, Bo. "How To Find Your One True Love."

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now it is on your discretion to agree or not.

i'm done here :)

posted by anthonette || 2:29 PM